유재석이 진행하는 유퀴즈에 나와서 유명세를 타기 시작하신 분인것 같긴한데 행복연구에 관한 권위자라고 하더라구요 서은국 교수의 스승이신 심리학자 에드 디너가 말한 내용이긴 한데 행복은 강도가 아니라 빈도가 중요하다고 합니다 그래서 집을 산다 로또에 당첨된다 멋진 새차를 산다 등등의 큰 기쁨이 일어나면 좋기는 하겠지만 그러한 기쁨들고 일정 시간이 지나면  일상이 되기 때문에 나를 더 행복하게 해주지는 못한다고 합니다 정말 그런것 같기도 하구요 그래서 중요한 것이 행복의 빈도라고 하는 것인데 좋아하는 커피나 차종류를 자주 즐긴다거나 관심을 기울여서 행하는 취미생활이 있다든가 작지만 소소한 것들에서 작으나마 기쁨을 자주 느끼는 게 만드는 것이 행복도가 높다고 하네요 예를 들어 지뢰를 여기저기 던져놓으면 움직일때 마다 밟을 확율이 높잖아요  작지만 소소한 것들에서 만족을 느끼는 행위들을 많이 가지게 되면 그 작은 행복 지뢰들이 자주 터지기 때문에 사람은 기쁨을 자주 느끼게 되는 거래요 저는 키친타월에 대한 행복도가 있어서 일회용 키친타월을 쓸 때마다 만족스러움과 행복감을 느끼게 되는 순간들이 있거든요 예전에는 아까워서 반으로 잘라쓰고 아껴쓰고 세번 쓸 걸 한 번 쓰고 했었는데 이제는 어느 정도 여유가 되어서 키친타월은 마음껏 사용해도 되는 형편이 되었다는 사실에 새삼 행복감을 느끼거든요 물론 지금은 환경 생각해서 자주 사용하지는 않지만 한 번씩 쓸 때마다 기쁘다는 생각을 한답니다 한 가지 예이긴 하지만 이런 사소한 기쁨들이 일상에 널려있다 보니 자주 혼자서도 미소를 짓고 만족스러워하지요   아마 유전적으로 행복을 느끼는 커트라인이 낮아서 그럴지도 모르지만요  어쨌든 아프리카쪽 사람들이 행복을 느끼는 유전자 잘 발달되어 있어서 흥이 많다고 하긴 하던데 사주 공부를 해보면 목화기운을 가진 사람들이 행복을 더 잘 느끼는 것 같기도 하고 까다롭지 않다는 생각을 하게 됩니다 100년도 못사는 인생인데 편한 마음으로 잘 살다갔으면 좋겠네요